Trusting others is a mistake you only makes once

I read Mary Shelley's Frankenstein in the beginning of this year. The words are old and there were time when I stop just to sort out. But, the message is clear. Trust is a precious treasure. Once you broke it, it's hard to revive it.

The story of Frankenstein is continued in 2014's movie, I Frankenstein. It revolves around the monster Frankenstein made. After killing his father's wife and buried him, this monster wander in world that never be friendly to him. He encounters demon prince who wants to duplicate Frankenstein's technology in order to make satan's army. The monster is offered hand by Gargoyle Order. He bites them at first, thinking that nobody could be so generous. But, after 200 years, the Order still willing to protect him, he melts. He finally opens his heart, ready to rely on the Archangel knights. After so long…

Frankenstein is human, though he didn't come to the world through conventional way. But, he surely has human's soul. And seeking for company is what human does. In order to be with someone you need to trust her/him. You need to accept and compromise.

However, we often stumble upon people who hurt our dignity, betray our hope, or even stab us from the back. We lost trust on them. They broke our hearts. I find my distrusting level up above the clouds. It feels much better to not relying to anyone, though I know it's not possible living straying from human. I come to realize that hoping someone to fit your image is the stupidest thing to do. It might take long road to understand people, but I have some tricks to shelter from those dangerous people.

1. Layered disclosure

Did you read about Florence Sihombing's outrage in path? I feel sorry for her knowing that someone on her friend list is a traitor. That culprit (none seems to pursue him/her) screen captured Florence's path and share it on other media. What a jerk. I won't like someone like that on my circle.

I take measure by treating media differently depending on people I connect. Facebook is like a portfolio, I have to post once in a while to let people know I'm alive. What'sApp is like sms, people can message me anytime. I have groups I hardly participate in and lots people who only spoke to me on Holiday. Path? I've deleted it. Instagram is for showing my photography ability. I only follow great instagrammer and not friends with lame skill. sorry. Instagram is sanctuary for me, I want it preserved beautifully. Tumblr is where you can follow me for various edits. I don't follow many, except you post your original works. Rebloggers are just followers. Livejournal is much more private, only for those who are engaged in conversation with me. Only 2 people in real life I add as friends and that's enough.

But, LINE is something else. I'm the most of me in that media. I only have 26 friends and only 9 of them can see my timeline. It's the most sacred place where I want to be connected to people who talk everyday or best friend whom I adore. It's more than just social media. It's my ultimate self-disclosure. 

2. Be kind

I don't know how you feel about people spitting their anger on Facebook, but I'm sick of them. Well, mostly pity them for lacking self control. They must be really really boring person in real life. Perhaps they also suffer from Narcistic Personality Disorder, thinking that everyone needs to know their problems. Sicko.

Everything you post on the net could be preserved. It lives longer than you expect. Even if you delete it, if somebody saved it before you, the nightmare continues. Either you turned into a clown or hummiliated, both are not great consequences, right? So, be kind to yourself and others. Write nice thing, if you still need to boast make it humble brag. XD. People love reading nice things and get inspired from it. 

Over exposure is the kind of my generation does, the Millennial Generation. However, our generation also gets higher education much more the previous generation. Let's just think longer before doing something we might regret.